To our sisters:
Above all, our desire is that this effort be given to God. We want it to be His desire and not ours, giving up ourselves, our ambitions, our desires and our goals to make sure that He is working through us and that what He would see done, be done. Everything can only come together through God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit
All the contributing authors to this blog are Bible-believing Christians. While we aren’t perfect, we seek to be Christ-like, and will only present and discuss topics according to how we feel God is leading us.
Womanhood in all its forms may be one of the most difficult and suppressed topics in the Church today. Lies, cover-ups and distorted truth are running rampant through our churches, and something has to be done. Everyday we come face to face with all of the topics presented in this blog and more, and it is our desire to share the truth God has lain on our hearts with you.
As young women, we are in a stage of life that leads to some interesting questions we don’t always feel comfortable asking. We also feel guilty sometimes for having these questions, even though we know they aren’t bad questions to ask. As we grapple with the truths of Scripture, the lies of our culture and the unnecessary silence of the church on some difficult topics, we pray that you will allow the Holy Spirit to convict in a way that glorifies God.
Lay aside your own bias and look around you at the women and girls who are suffering in sin, suffering in doubt and suffering in lies. This can change! There is truth — beautiful, loving, God-given truth — to be shared with women who are struggling.
God, through His Holy Spirit, has convicted us to write this blog. We have researched, studied, asked questions and grappled with some very tough topics. We are confident that there is a message God is trying to send to his daughters, and we are grateful for the opportunity to share His truth and His love.
Before you go any further, please stop and pray that God will open your heart to seek the freedom that only comes through Christ. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 6:11-12, “… But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. You say, “I am allowed to do anything,”— but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything.”
And in Galatians 5:1, “For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.”
And Christ’s words in John 8:36, “So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” They answered him, “We are offspring of Abraham and have never been enslaved to anyone. How is it that you say, ‘You will become free’?” Jesus answered them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who practices sin is a slave to sin. The slave does not remain in the house forever; the son remains forever. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”
We all have backgrounds. We all have stories to tell and regrets. But God creates a new, beautiful thing when we accept Christ. The old us is completely dead, and the new us is alive and thriving in Jesus. We have freedom, but our freedom is in and through Christ, not the things we can or cannot do, have or have not done.
If some of the topics in this blog freak you out, that’s okay. They freaked us out too at one point. But our curiosity and desperation for the truth won out over our uneasiness. We are all human. We are women. And we decided one day, after many questions and not many answers, to start seeking Truth in its only form – Christ.
He has been gracious to show us answers to our questions and has opened doors for us that never could have opened without Him. The Holy Spirit has guided us to many sources, people and opportunities in order to share our thoughts with you. You will find topics such as female porn, premarital sex, purity vs. virginity, sex drive and many others on this blog. These are real struggles we have faced, as humans and, yes, as women.
We can’t claim to have all the answers. We are still seeking after God and His will and answers to more of our questions. But as we start this journey with you, we want you to know you are not alone. You are not weird or unusually sinful or unfeminine for having questions, thoughts and doubts like these. Nor are you stupid for believing some of the lies that have been passed down about being a woman for hundreds of years.
Sister, if you have surrendered yourself and your desires to Christ, you are a daughter of God. You are His, you are precious, you are redeemed and you are loved. Let us hold tight to Christ and the truth of God’s word and not be “destroyed by lack of knowledge.” (Hosea 4:6) And let’s help our other sisters and the Church to see the truth in all circumstances.
Whitney & Erin